This is a first for our family. For 3 years, Grady has been on a winning team. Last season I remember when we hit a 10 game winning streak and the whole team got Slurpee's for their win. The coach had a deal with them that if they won 15 games in a row he'd wear a suit on the bench. Unfortunately, that didn't happen.
Being on the losing side has a taught me a few things.
The parents care more than the kids. It was the parents talking in the stands about wanting to win a game. It was the parents that realized that it had been a long time since our last win. It was the parents that were disappointed after each game that we lost. The kids hustled out of the dressing room asking if they could go to the pool.
The loss is easily forgotten. For my kids at least. While they may be sad on the ice and in the dressing room, by the time they hop in the van all they care about is what is for dinner!
The kids play their hardest no matter what the score. Cooper played great this weekend. We are quickly realizing that Mr. Coop is a defense man. He doesn't care about the final score, all he cares about is protecting the net, whether the game is close or not.
They won't remember the score, they will remember the fun. This weekend we spent in Golden, staying at a hotel with all the other families. Swimming, running loose around the hotel, playing vids, playing mini sticks and hiding out from the parents in various rooms. The kids won't remember what the score was but they will remember who did the best canon ball into the pool!
I use my bell more on a losing team. When we are on a winning team I choose only to use my cow bell on the first goal or two and then I put it away. I don't like to be that obnoxious parent that doesn't take the other teams feelings into account. On Cooper's team I ring that bell for every single goal. Those kids deserve it. They work so hard for everyone of them! I ring it on saves, on goals, and at the end. We are that team.
Our coaches are superb. Win or lose, our coaches support the team. They are encouraging and positive, win or lose. From the spectator benches I can see the coaches giving each player pep talks, high fiving them after a good shift and pouring water into their mouths when the players are thirsty. It is clear that these coaches develop bonds with the kids and vice versa. I've had more than one of he coaches tell me how much Cooper has improved this season or to email me after a practice and tell me how hard 'Coopman' is working.
| First penalty! |
It's hard to score. When you are a first year player and you play on team that doesn't win all that much, it is really hard to score. We have a handful of second year players that score 90% of our goals which is great, but part of the fun of the sport when you are young is scoring the goals. Since Cooper is turning into a defenceman, he rarely plays forward which means even fewer opportunities to score. Now that he is getting so much praise for guarding the net he isn't as eager to play forward or score the goals. He is more into stopping them and I must say he does it well!
In the end, yes, it is nice to win, nobody likes to lose, but not winning doesn't make our season any less exciting. Cooper has made some excellent friends, ones I hope that he gets to play with in the years to come. We have a great group of parents and coaches and I will be just as sad to see this season end as I am every season, even the winning ones.
